| It's one of the most terrible things that can | | | | music, in literature and more recently also in the |
| happen to you: being in love with someone who | | | | movies. The Phantom of the Opera, The |
| isn't in love with you. | | | | Hunchback of Notre Dame, Cyrano De'Bergerac |
| Every hour can be agonizing - worse than Chinese | | | | are just some of the many famous characters |
| water torture. You might feel desperate, | | | | who's life story is about loving a woman who |
| depressed and worthless. | | | | doesn't love back. But for some reason, there are |
| I know all the uplifting advice that friends or | | | | very few popular stories that depict it the other |
| family like to offer. "Get him off your mind." "Let's | | | | way: a woman loving a man who doesn't love her. |
| go out and have some fun, you gotta think about | | | | But in real life, my experience is that women |
| other things." And - worst of all - "there's 3 billion | | | | more often came for help on how to deal with |
| men on earth, you're gonna find someone better". | | | | unrequited love than men. |
| The truth is - a new hobby, another date, a night | | | | If all the well-meant advice doesn't help - what |
| with the girls or a funny movie won't do it. Very | | | | does help? |
| few people on earth really understand what it's | | | | Being a hypnotist, I used hypnosis. Love is a |
| like to be really lovesick. Sure, everyone at one | | | | powerful force that resides within us - and no |
| point in their life had a crush on someone who | | | | amount of rational thinking and logic can "undo |
| didn't care. That's bad enough, but it's something | | | | love". Even when we know that loving this person |
| else with love. | | | | is in vain, even destructive, we can't stop it. We |
| Clinical psychologist Dr. Frank Tallis said that | | | | can't decide to not love somebody anymore. It's |
| unrequited love can literally make you sick. It can | | | | instinctive. |
| bring depression, feelings of worthlessness, mania, | | | | The reason why hypnosis works so well is |
| elevated mood, inflated self-esteem, insomnia and | | | | because it's a way of "talking to your instincts". |
| obsessive compulsive behavior. And Prof Alex | | | | You take the conscious, reasoning mind aside and |
| Gardner, who's also a clinical psychologist believes | | | | communicate directly with the subconscious mind |
| that people can actually die from a broken heart. | | | | - the one that's making you feel how you feel. |
| Unrequited love is a recurring theme in the arts, in | | | | |